I find it amazing, how discussions can lead to ideas for my blog.
We all need to feel great at work and establish solid relationships with our colleagues, managers and bosses.
Having said that, there is a fine line. You cannot mistake work relationships as personal. Don’t get me wrong. There are true, deep and long lasting friendships being born from your work environment.
But you have to understand your environment, always be respectful, and never “demand” social inclusion.
Not being included in events outside work, does not mean that you are not liked at work or not respected. Believe in yourself, don’t be “short”, don’t take work related issues personally. NEVER be sarcastic and ask why you were not included. This is plain rude, and shows insecurity.
IF you feel left out, then sit and think really hard if you are as giving, as collaborative and as helpful at work as you should be. If the answer is YES, then know that : This is NOT personal. This is work.
IF some of your truths say NO, then try to change your attitude, be more of a team player, try to do good every day.
IF you start a true friendship, NEVER cross the line, NEVER ask for personal favors, NEVER put your newfound friendship in an awkward position by taking liberties at work. Work is work, friendship is friendship.
Do not muddle those two.
My advice is:
Stay true to your values, be respectful, respect others no matter their position on the corporate ladder, always offer a helping hand, be compassionate, know how to say thank you, and always apologize honestly for a mistake or faux pas. We are all human.
Do not start disliking colleagues for non inclusion outside of work.
We all have our social circles.
This doesn’t mean that you are “hated”.
Grow up and believe in yourself and abilities. After all, you were hired for a reason. Find this reason in your heart and go for it with all your passion, hard work and team spirit!